Each week I post an update called Tuning In on what I'm up to and ideas for grounding, connection, and discovering vitality in your life. Most of the links on this post are informational only, but a few are affiliate links that help me keep up my website.
August 30th, 2021 - Grief Awareness Day
August 31st, 2021 - International Overdose Awareness Day
September 4th, 2021 - World Sexual Health Day
September is National Suicide Awareness Month and National Self-Care Awareness Month
Ideas for Grounding: I recently rediscovered the Calm App. This was the meditation app I used back when I got my first smart phone. The feature that I'm finding most helpful is the moving images with sound on the home screen. There are images of calm lakes, waterfalls, and rain fall with corresponding sound. This is a simple nervous system break for those moments when we start to feel activation rising up in the body.
Ideas for Connection: Connection continues to be difficult during the pandemic and the current increase in cases. Focus on connecting with others in ways that it feels accessible and safe for you in this moment. In these last few weeks of summer, I'm focusing on connecting with nature by finding new places to explore outside.
Ideas for Creating Vitality: Vitality is our life force. Drinking a glass of cool water is a simple way to increase your energy and life force. Remember when it comes to the nervous system, small shifts have the biggest impact. Feel into your vitality before and after slowly drinking a glass of water and identify if you notice a difference.
Why grounding, connection, and vitality? Because these are the ways we regulate the nervous system. Spending intentional time in a regulated state allows our nervous system to wire in the direction of safety and aliveness. In other words, it's a big piece of the puzzle of how we repair the survival response of trauma.
What I'm Reading Related for Therapy: What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD & Oprah Winfrey
"Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain development and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry discuss the impact of trauma and adversity and how healing must begin with a shift to asking 'What happened to you?' rather than 'What's wrong with you?'"
What I'm Reading for Fun: The Last Season by Eric Blehm
"Randy Morgenson was legendary for finding people missing in the High Sierra. Then one day he went missing himself."
(I'm a proud member of the sloth reading club, so what I'm reading will not change weekly.)
Podcast Episode with Impact: We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle "PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture's invention of gender typecast every last one of us?"
Song on Repeat: "At This Point in My Life" by Tracy Chapman
TV Show or Movie I'm Watching: The White Lotus (like everyone else right now)
Projects I'm Working On: Self-development book on trauma and worthiness, book of poetry, ongoing content for various publications. Considering next steps in career training—psychedelic assisted therapy, biblio/poetry therapy training, or yoga teacher training.
by Nikki Giovanni
If i can't do
what i want to do
then my job is to not
do what i don't want
It's not the same thing
but's it's the best i can
If i can't have
what i want... then
my job is to want
what i've got
and be satisfied
that at least there
is more to want
Since i can't go
where i need
to go... then i must... go
where the signs point
though always understanding
When i can't express
what i really feel
i practice feeling
what i can express
and none of it is equal
but that's why mankind
alone among the animals
learns to cry
Hear Nikki Giovanni read it herself here.
Meme of the Week:
Quote that is Inspiring Me: "I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being." - Hafez
I'd love to hear how you are grounding, connecting, and creating vitality. What is helping you feel calm and alive? Or comment below on what books, podcasts, songs, shows, poetry, or quotes are resonating with you right now.
I'm Kerry (She/Her/Hers) and I am a licensed therapist, writer & speaker. This is a place to acknowledge and validate our trauma, while also learning how to turn toward aliveness and spaciousness when possible.