Two years ago I wrote a blog post titled This is 38 (apparently I skipped 39, because of that whole global pandemic thing). In that post, I reflected on another year around the sun and wrote the following intentions:
I want to spend more time...
-basking in the present moment.
-staring at the mountains and Puget Sound.
-hiking and grounding on the earth.
-exploring nearby destinations.
-experiencing everyday life with wonder.
-feeling gratitude for my blessings.
-writing, writing, writing.
-being intentional when using the internet.
-approaching my clients with curiosity and openness.
-living in accordance with my soul.
These intentions still resonate with me two years later. They are not fixed, they do not have an end date, they are still relevant as I turn 40.
How do I feel about turning 40? I have always subscribed to the Oprah Winfrey school on aging:
"Getting older is the best thing that ever happened to me. I wake up every morning rejoicing that I’m still here with an opportunity to begin again and be better." - Oprah Winfrey
I truly have no feelings about it, other than feeling grateful and ready to see what the next decade brings.
Here is a fun graphic for those of us born in 1981.
When I was younger, I imagined turning 40 would involve a party with "Over the Hill" banners hanging everywhere, instead I opted for a quiet long weekend in the Washington coastal town of Bellingham. It included all of my favorite things: salt water (complete with a boat ride to the San Juan Islands in which I saw a humpback and her baby), waterfalls, sunsets, coffee, and antique stores. Oh, and don't forget a humpback whale cake and ice cream. These are the things that give me vitality and feel like a celebration of life.
No one knows the meaning of life, but at 40, I do know that following the feeling of being alive wherever I can find it is one of the best ways to find meaning.
At the stage of life you are in, what gives you vitality? How do you celebrate growing older?
"There’s a reason they call it growing older—because it can help you grow wiser, stronger, and happier." - Oprah Winfrey
I'm Kerry (She/Her/Hers) and I am a licensed therapist, group facilitator, poet, writer, & speaker. This is a place to acknowledge and validate our suffering and trauma, while also learning how to turn toward aliveness and spaciousness.